I never drink in the morning. I'm not even usually a drinker. Nor am I the type to use sedatives and sleeping pills. Now I'm wondering if I'm headed down the road to addiction.
The overwhelming guilt, thoughts of regret and most of all the deep grief, loneliness and longing are eating me up inside. When does grief become pathological?
My response: It's important to remember that grief is not a pathological condition. It is a normal response to significant loss.
To be sure, loss creates an emotional wound, but it is an injury that can be healed. With help and understanding, the pain of loss can be transformed into a challenging new beginning, and your grief experience can become a healthy, positive and healing process. But to make the process of grief a healing one, you must go through it actively, which means moving through it thoughtfully and working with it deliberately.
Expressed grief can be worked with and released, but suppressed grief will torment you in ways you cannot control. Healthy, normal mourning is a process of honestly facing the reality of your loss, coming to terms with its impact on your life, learning to access all available resources for recovery, finding meaning in your loss and continuing to live productively in the years that follow.
Certainly reactions to grief can become complicated, whereby painful emotions are so long lasting and so severe that you're unable to function normally ~ but given the fact that you are participating actively in our online Grief Healing Discussion Groups, seeking information, finding available resources, reaching out for support and responding to our efforts to help, that is not likely to happen.
As for your concerns about using alcohol, the fact that you're "not even usually a drinker" and you're "not the type to use sedatives and sleeping pills" tells me that you don't have a history of substance abuse, so it is unlikely that you will suddenly develop an addiction to alcohol or drugs. On the other hand, when you're suffering something as devastating as the death of your spouse, the lure of taking something to dull the pain can be very seductive. Common as it may be, this strategy for avoiding pain only serves to aggravate it ~ especially in the case of alcohol, which acts as a depressant and often leaves you feeling worse. I encourage you to read this article about the dangers of mixing alcohol with grief: Alcohol Is Not The Answer. As the author wisely states, “People do not die from grief, but they can die from alcoholism. It is important to remember that grief over the death of a loved one is an excuse for drinking - not a reason for it.”
Related:
- Alcohol Is Not The Answer
- Addiction Resources
- As Long As I Don't Do This
- Bereavement: Doing The Work of Grief
- COVID-19 and Addiction: Risks of Going Untreated
- Cries for Help: 10 Signs of Addiction
- Drinking for Fun or Drinking to Numb?
- Drug and Alcohol Addiction During A Pandemic
- For Parents in Recovery: Staying Sober After Death of A Child
- Free Virtual Support Meetings with American Addiction Centers
- Friends and Family of Alcoholics
- In Grief: Mixing Drugs with Alcohol
- Re-Claiming A Simple Pleasure
- The Comprehensive Guide to Alcohol and Sleep
- Using Alcohol to Feel Feelings
- Using Medication to Manage Grief
- Ways We Numb Ourselves
- What Is Complicated Grief?
- When Sobriety Meets Addiction (and Addiction Meets Sobriety)
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