When it hurts to stand still next to someone and the only thing you have in common is the past, sometimes the best thing you can do for each other is walk separately towards a future and it’s there you’ll find someone who stays. ~ Kirsten Corley
Whenever there is a loss of something significant in our lives, we suffer grief. When an intimate love relationship ends – whether we were married, living together with a partner or significant other, or committed to another as part of a couple – the separation can be overwhelmingly painful. Usually for a death there is a set ritual with a funeral or memorial service, and some understanding in our culture that mourning is important. But for the death of a love relationship, there is no prescribed ritual of mourning, and the accompanying grief that is part of the divorce / breaking-up process is seldom acknowledged or accepted. The ending of a love relationship is yet another kind of death, and it is just as worthy of our understanding and support. Gathered here are a number of resources that can help.
As always, if you know of others you've found useful that you think ought to be included, let us know in the Comments section below.
Books
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
Changing Families: A Child’s Workbook About Divorce by Wendy Young
Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live through the Ending of Yours
Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You
Growing Wings: A View from Inside the Cocoon
How to Survive the Loss of a Love
How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To
Invisible Heroes : Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal
Life After Loss: A Personal Guide Dealing with Death, Divorce, Job Change and Relocation
Life Is Goodbye, Life Is Hello: Grieving Well Through All Kinds of Loss
Mars and Venus Starting Over: A Practical Guide for Finding Love Again after a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or Loss of a Loved One
Moving On: Dump Your Relationship Baggage and Make Room for the Love of Your Life
Private Lies: Infidelity and Betrayal of Intimacy
Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, 4th Edition
The Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman's Guide to Healing From a Breakup or Divorce
The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Surviving the Loss of Love
The Disenfranchised: Stories of Life and Grief When an Ex-Spouse Dies
The Way of Transition: Embracing Life's Most Difficult Moments
Tough Transitions: Navigating Your Way through Difficult Times
Transcending Divorce: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart
Websites
Death of a Relationship Links, via Grief Healing
Loss of a Love Relationship - Grief Healing Discussion Groups Online Forum
Articles
5 Truths About Breakups (That No One Ever Tells You) by Melissa Lafsky
6 Tips for Getting Past Your Breakup by Susan J Elliott
10 Tips to Mend a Broken Heart by Therese J. Borchard
11 Pieces of BreakUp Advice From Broken-Hearted Men by Taryn Hillin
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
Changing Families: A Child’s Workbook About Divorce by Wendy Young
Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live through the Ending of Yours
Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You
Growing Wings: A View from Inside the Cocoon
How to Survive the Loss of a Love
How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To
Invisible Heroes : Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal
Life After Loss: A Personal Guide Dealing with Death, Divorce, Job Change and Relocation
Life Is Goodbye, Life Is Hello: Grieving Well Through All Kinds of Loss
Mars and Venus Starting Over: A Practical Guide for Finding Love Again after a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or Loss of a Loved One
Moving On: Dump Your Relationship Baggage and Make Room for the Love of Your Life
Private Lies: Infidelity and Betrayal of Intimacy
Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, 4th Edition
The Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman's Guide to Healing From a Breakup or Divorce
The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Surviving the Loss of Love
The Disenfranchised: Stories of Life and Grief When an Ex-Spouse Dies
The Way of Transition: Embracing Life's Most Difficult Moments
Tough Transitions: Navigating Your Way through Difficult Times
Transcending Divorce: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart
Websites
Death of a Relationship Links, via Grief Healing
Loss of a Love Relationship - Grief Healing Discussion Groups Online Forum
Articles
5 Truths About Breakups (That No One Ever Tells You) by Melissa Lafsky
6 Tips for Getting Past Your Breakup by Susan J Elliott
10 Tips to Mend a Broken Heart by Therese J. Borchard
11 Pieces of BreakUp Advice From Broken-Hearted Men by Taryn Hillin
Ambiguous Loss: When Grief Threatens A Love Relationship by Marty Tousley
Ask BR: After Breakups I Experience Separation Anxiety, Obsessive Thoughts, & Anger. How Can I Handle Them Better?
Ask BR: After Breakups I Experience Separation Anxiety, Obsessive Thoughts, & Anger. How Can I Handle Them Better?
Dealing with a Breakup or Divorce: Grieving and Moving On After A Relationship Ends via HelpGuide.org
Define “Loss” by Catherine Tidd
Disenfranchised Grief: The Five Types and Reactions Explained - Interview with Ken Doka via Seven Ponds Blog
Disenfranchised Grief: When An Ex-Spouse Dies by Marty Tousley
Finding Hope and Healing after Heartbreak by Maggie DeMellier
Define “Loss” by Catherine Tidd
Disenfranchised Grief: The Five Types and Reactions Explained - Interview with Ken Doka via Seven Ponds Blog
Disenfranchised Grief: When An Ex-Spouse Dies by Marty Tousley
Finding Hope and Healing after Heartbreak by Maggie DeMellier
Grief After A Breakup: Three Things You Should Know by Eleanor Haley
Grieving The Living: Losing Those Who Are Still Here by Michael Formica
How Can A Relationship Survive Grief? by Natalie Morris
How Can A Relationship Survive Grief? by Natalie Morris
How Grief Colours Our Brain: Why Do We Become Illogical After A Relationship Breaks Up? by Lakshana N Palat
How Modern Society Complicates The Grief of Heartbreak by Rohitha Naraharisetty
How Not To Respond To News Of A Divorce by Kristin Tennant
How to Get Over A Breakup by Christine Baumgartner
How Not To Respond To News Of A Divorce by Kristin Tennant
How to Get Over A Breakup by Christine Baumgartner
How to Get Over a Breakup by Juan Moyano
How to Get Over A Breakup or Divorce by Luisa Tam
How to Move On After Divorce, And How Long It Really Takes via The Huffington Post
How to Move On After Divorce, And How Long It Really Takes via The Huffington Post
In Grief: Can This Relationship Survive? by Marty Tousley
In Grief: Death of A Marriage by Marty Tousley
In Grief: Mourning A Lost Love by Marty Tousley
In Grief: Supporting A Partner in Mourning by Marty Tousley
Is Grief A Normal Reaction to Divorce? by Marty Tousley
Kissing Frogs: A Case for Conscious Grieving by Judy Warren
Letting Go and Moving On After A Breakup or Divorce by Danielle B. Grossman
Is Grief A Normal Reaction to Divorce? by Marty Tousley
Kissing Frogs: A Case for Conscious Grieving by Judy Warren
Letting Go and Moving On After A Breakup or Divorce by Danielle B. Grossman
Mother's Death Threatens Couple's Love Relationship by Marty Tousley
“Radio Silence”: Making a Case for Not Talking to an Ex by Judy Warren
“Radio Silence”: Making a Case for Not Talking to an Ex by Judy Warren
Shattered Dreams of Love: Heartache and Grief by Mary C. Lamia
The Healing Power of Heartbreak: Why We Should All Have This Painful Experience by Robi Ludwig
This Just Might Be The Smartest Way To Get Over Your Ex by Brittany Wong
Uncommon Advice to Heal a Broken Heart by Susan Piver
Understanding When To Let Go And Why Endings That Hurt Even Happen by Kirsten Corley
Voices of Experience: On Dating A Girl Without A Mother by Jenna Rose Lowthert
Who Gets thePet In A Divorce? via WikiHow
Why Our Need for Closure Makes Us Selfish by Mark Travis Rivera
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