Apologizing for Expressing the Anger of Grief

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[Reviewed and updated October 14, 2024]

A reader writes: In a few more days it will be ten years since I lost my wife and daughter in an auto accident. I have been in a bad headspace for the past few days and left a not-so-nice message for you in one of the forums on the Grief Healing Discussion Groups site, and there is no "take it back" button. So this is my apology. I should not have lashed out at you; it's just that you were there, if you know what I mean. Once again, I am sorry.

Caregiving and Hospice, January 19 - January 25, 2014

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Why palliative care is not just for the dying - it's about living well for as long as you can, http://j.mp/1cd9BLf « Mirror

Sorting Out the Confusion Between Palliative Care and Hospice Care, http://j.mp/1eluQqL « Nancy's Point

What Do You Say to Get Someone to Accept Hospice Services? http://j.mp/1mxQv3E « Barbara Karnes Books, Inc.

Understanding and Managing Grief, January 19 - January 25, 2014

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Survivors of Suicide: Members of a Very Small Club, http://j.mp/1emQrzk « New York Times Magazine

6 Things to Never Say to a Bereaved Parent, http://j.mp/1awPHfx « Still Standing Magazine

64 Movies About Grief and Loss, http://j.mp/1aV4R8Q « What's Your Grief?

Coping with Pet Loss, January 19 - January 25, 2014

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

5 Ways You and Your Kids Can Honor the Life of a Departed Pet, http://j.mp/19T04ts

« Catster

5 Comforting Conversations to Help You Cope with Pet Loss, http://j.mp/1hLq2zo « Veterinary Wisdom Professionals

Helping a Child with Pet Loss, http://j.mp/LuO1Hu « Grief Healing Blog

Helping a Child with Pet Loss

How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.  ~ Winnie the Pooh

A reader writes: Today my cat Mischief died! She was the best cat in the world! She died with my parents at our house. I am VERY heart-broken! Besides my dogs she was the only friend that would NEVER get mad at me!!! I mean this is a lot for me to go through at the small age of 10! Do you know of any ways for me to cope but never forget the good times we had?

Caregiving and Hospice, January 12 - January 18, 2014

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

3 Services for the Elderly Who Need Help at Home, http://j.mp/1hz5DNU « The CareGiver Partnership

The Best Conversation to Have With Your Kids NOW So You Don't Put Strain on Them Later,  http://j.mp/1awsCE6 « The Caregiver Space

Top 6 Blogs for Caregivers (Aging Parents Edition), http://j.mp/1mhRxDu « The Caregiver Space

Understanding and Managing Grief, January 12 - January 18, 2014

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The Irony and Inconsistency of Grief, http://j.mp/1hBhmeS « Journeys Through Grief Newsletter Blog

Offering kindness through the breath: finding some ease in grief, http://j.mp/19CygJG « Refuge in Grief

"Mindfulness and Grief: The Transformative Power of Now" has been accepted for ADEC Annual Conference! bit.ly/adec2014 « Mindfulness and Grief

Coping with Pet Loss, January 12 - January 18, 2014

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

On Jan. 22: Pet Hospice: When It’s Time to Say Goodbye, http://j.mp/KbfnSP « A Good Goodbye

Heartwarming! How Medium John Edward Got Lucky, http://j.mp/19p4PdZ « John Edward Newsletter

Grief Support Classes for Personal Healing, Professional Development, and Certification, http://j.mp/1dpFzW6 « Animals in Our Hearts

Voices of Experience: Grief, 44 Long Months Later

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by Mary Friedel-Hunt, MA, LCSW

No matter how much time has passed since the death of someone dearly loved, the harsh reality of all that's been lost is still enough to bring us to our knees.

yesterday and forever

here it comes again and again
...the 27th of another month
now 44 long long months.
how can they feel like yesterday
and forever at the same time?

Caregiving and Hospice, January 5 - January 11, 2014

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Following Your Own North Star: Sibling Conflict in Caregiving, http://j.mp/1dDlvua « The Caregiver Space

Palliative care clinicians explain 10 points about the value of palliative care, http://j.mp/1enkz0F « Oncology Nurse Advisor

The CareGiver Partnership: HELPing To See Both Sides, http://j.mp/19XCAna « The CareGiver Partnership

Understanding and Managing Grief, January 5 - January 11, 2014

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Meditation: Helpful to Those Who Grieve, http://j.mp/1ch9a1D « Grief Healing Blog

8 Ways to Cope With Grief during Milestone Events, http://j.mp/Kb38ot « HuffPost Healthy Living

Is it okay to express sympathy on Facebook? http://j.mp/1iYij3B « HuffPost Healthy Living

Coping with Pet Loss, January 5 - January 11, 2014

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Losing Our Girl, http://j.mp/1cLxQik « SevenPonds Blog

Dog Gone, http://j.mp/19hWUiu « Ashley Davis Bush, LICSW

How to explain death of a family pet to children, http://j.mp/1lZWFJB « PetPlace.com

Helping Children Cope with a Parent's Serious Illness: Resources

[Reviewed and updated December 20, 2022]

A reader writes: My daughter just recently was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). I want to know what I can do to make life easier for her and my four grandchildren. The children range in age from seven to thirteen. I understand that the kids are scared, but they are pushing everybody's boundaries at the moment, and my daughter is struggling big-time with their attitudes of defiance. I appreciate any help you can offer. Are there any resources "out there" that I should know about?

Caregiving and Hospice, December 29 - January 4, 2014

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The Real Story Behind The Latest Hospice Controversy, http://j.mp/1g6h9im « Forbes

Bravo! Hospice Gets Trashed by the Washington Post. Our Response, http://j.mp/1hm9tvZ « Harrison's Hope

Free Copies of 'Activities 101 for the Family Caregiver,' http://j.mp/1gx1ae6 « The Caregiver Partnership

Understanding and Managing Grief, December 29 - January 4, 2014

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Who are you? The Self after Loss, http://j.mp/19HN7D0 « It's OK to Die

Online resources for those who have lost pregnancies, http://j.mp/1iCRwtF « Reconceiving Loss

Friday Favorites: Grief Articles from this Week, http://j.mp/1i2IWkS « What's Your Grief?

Coping with Pet Loss, December 29 - January 4, 2014

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Lap of Love Veterinary Hospice network eases death for pets, owners, http://j.mp/1bEru0y « The Augusta Chronicle

If you have a dog, read this, http://j.mp/1l2nMG3 « elephant journal

Helping Children Cope with the Death of a Pet, http://j.mp/19xbPDt « Kidlutions